It’s Okay To Feel Lost: Finding Motivation

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It’s okay to feel lost.

I’m on a mission to devour books – mainly informative books that will motivate me and help me on my path to…something really awesome, that I haven’t quite figured out yet (beyond the vague terms of “financial freedom” and “location independence”).

I’ve started reading Tim Ferriss’ The Four Hour Work Week and I’ve been struck by something. In the beginning, Ferriss takes some time to distinguish between Deferrers and the New Rich. Deferrers are those who delay, or defer, retirement. They want to work, work, work, for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. The New Rich want to retire early and often, pursuing things that excite them. The goal is not inactivity, it’s excitement.

After years of repetitive work, you will often need to dig hard to find your passions, redefine your dreams, and revive hobbies that you let atrophy to near extinction. The goal is not to simply eliminate the bad, which does nothing more than leave you with a vacuum, but to pursue and experience the best in the world (p.22)

As soon as I read this, I was struck by sudden clarity. I’ve felt so lost, and confused, and frustrated that I don’t know yet. That I don’t have the answer(s). I often have spontaneous and wild ideas that I start with fervor, only to discard shortly after because I lose interest or passion for it. A few things stick, and I hold on to those with a fierce grip (i.e. travel and photography).

You will often need to dig hard to find your passions.

It hit me that this is what I’ve been doing. This is what I’ve always been doing. My whole life – searching to find my passions. And it’s okay, at 27 – at any age, to be searching for your passions. Still, again, or for the first time. It doesn’t matter. That’s the point. You will never be younger than you are right now.

Read on and Ferriss reaffirms this and says that we need a better question than “What do you want?” – most people don’t know. The real question is, “What excites you?” Because when it comes down to it, we are all chasing that feeling of excitement. Whether through love, adventure, or sport, the things that excite us the most are the most worthwhile – not to mention the most memorable.

  It’s okay to feel lost, but don’t stop there.

Maybe we are meant to spend our lives discovering ourselves. Who are we? What do we like? What propels each of us forward and makes us feel excited and energized?

Some might find this earlier than others, but that doesn’t mean they’re better or smarter. Just remember, it’s okay to feel lost. Keep asking questions, keep searching, dig hard.


– Melissa

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